Yep - it's big. But you do have some options...
d/l Download Accelerator 8.5 Free edition
here It will enable you to keep connected to the download site (
http://www.Gamershell.com works best for me - search '4.08m') and it will enable you to stop/resume the download at your leisure.
make sure you select the BIG (144.78MB) download for the game and not the smaller one for the dedicated server.
Another option is to download it at a public library and burn it to disk there.
PC Pilot magazine might also have it on their acompanying CD in the near future - they've done it before for big patches...
If none of these options work for you, I could burn it to a CD and send it to you by snail-mail. In that case PM or email the address to send it to to me by clicking the buttons below. It would take about a week to arrive though.